March 11, 2016 KimHarms 7Comment

In the past two weeks Corey has had to help me do a lot of things that I didn’t figure I’d need assistance with until I was in my 80s.  You know, like sitting on a toilet. To give you a glimpse of recent days in our home, the following is an incomplete list of normal everyday things breast cancer has made it necessary for Corey to help me with. Walking. Sitting down. Repositioning myself in my chair. Standing up. Eating. Scratching my itchy nose when my hands couldn’t reach that far. (When I was coming out of anesthesia this…

October 12, 2015 KimHarms 3Comment

Proverbs 5:18 Rejoice in the wife of your youth.   The girl interest level at my house is pretty low right now, but I know my boys will sooner or later realize that the females of the species aren’t so bad. And though two of my three are adamant about retaining their bachelorhood until death, I know it is likely that someday a sweet girl will take their breath away and eventually their heart. In this world where sex outside of marriage is aggressively promoted as right and good, where the negative effects of it are ignored, where divorce is…

September 19, 2015 KimHarms

  “You know, it’s okay if your primary ministry focus is your husband and your kids.” I don’t remember the details of the conversation with my mother-in-law leading up to that comment, but those words were the impetus to a change in my mom of small children perspective. I knew I wanted my primary role at that point in my life to be wife and mother, but it wasn’t until someone else said it out loud that I started to seriously think about what it meant. My husband was a project manager for a construction company and depending on what point he…

August 21, 2015 KimHarms

I’m over on  The Mid at Scary Mommy today giving advice to my younger self. Feel free to check it out. An author/teacher whom I have an immense amount of respect for said that the best advice he ever got as a writer was, “You must be willing to walk down the street naked.” Every time a piece of me goes out into the world of cyber-space via an article I’ve written, I have a better understanding of what that statement means.

March 13, 2014 KimHarms 12Comment

“While we had developed an extraordinary relationship, we had never been extraordinary people. We were just two flawed humans, who eventually discovered what it was to put the other first.” – Mary Potter Kenyon, Chemo-Therapist, How Cancer Saved a Marriage. Isn’t that what it’s all about? Discovering how to put the other first? Two flawed people committing their lives to each other and then hopping into life full-force, sometimes completely missing the planks in our own eyes while trying to dig the sawdust out of our mate’s. Anyone can have an ordinary-survival-mode type of marriage. It is only when we…