Kim Harms

Life Reconstructed

Wallflower or Wildflower?


“Why am I not more like her?” You’ve thought it before haven’t you?  She is beautiful and poised and confident. Everybody loves her. If only you could be like that.

And then you step in front of a mirror and you see your mousey brown hair or your face full of freckles or your body shape that has always left you feeling insecure and your initial thoughts are reinforced. ‘God obviously has big plans for the one who looks so composed, but I was born to hide in the shadows.’

You don’t even let yourself think about the possibility of big things. Instead you settle into your wallflower mentality believing  this is what you were made for. You were created to be the one who just hangs with the crowd; never stirring the waters, but never making your mark either.

It’s a Lie.

We girls often find ourselves so entranced by the world’s deception that we not only believe the lie, we think it’s good. We think it’s right.

But what if we choose to think differently? What if we choose to believe truth even when the voices in our heads try to convince us otherwise? So you may not look like Miss America, and your presence may not command the attention of everyone in the room. But God did not put you on this earth to blend into your surroundings until the day He returns. He has blessed you with talents and purpose. The beauty of what God created you to be will become increasingly evident as you trust him to use the gifts He’s placed in your very being.

You do not have to be a wallflower. You can be like a wildflower. Once wildflower seed is tossed on the ground it grows and it spreads covering vast areas of land with brilliant colors.

So go ahead. Throw your seed on the ground. Ignore the loud ugly voices and listen to the quiet one beneath all the rest. The one that never changes but often gets drowned out. The one that whispers, “You are loved. You are worth it. I have blessed you with a good and perfect gift. Toss the seed, and I will make it grow.”

James 1:16-17 Do not be deceived my dear brothers. Every good and perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of the heavenly lights, who does not change like shifting shadows.


Author: Kim Harms

I am a contributor at CT Women (previously known as Today's Christian Woman where I was a regular contributor as well). I blog monthly at and have freelanced for a variety of publications including Chicken Soup for the Soul, Guideposts, Thriving Family and Creation Illustrated. Cancer made an unwelcome visit in my breast in January 2016, and I am now working on a book about breast reconstruction after having gone through the insane process myself. My incredible husband of 18 years, Corey, is my biggest writing cheerleader and together we are having a ball raising our three growing boys; Carter 15, Owen 14 and Lewis 10.

6 thoughts on “Wallflower or Wildflower?

  1. Great post Kim!! I think you are so gifted in writing.

  2. So true! Thanks for the reminder, Kim!

  3. Awesome post. Thanks. I needed that.

  4. Beautiful, Kim~

  5. Thanks for the comments. It’s nice to know when that I’m not the only one who needs the reminder.

  6. Pingback: Secret Place Devo – Wallflower or Wildflower | 26 Letters - Countless Stories

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