Kim Harms

Life Reconstructed

What Love Really Means (Laura Rechkemmer)


Sanctity of Life post #1. I met Laura when I was in college at Iowa State. She took over my spot in my apartment when I got married to the most awesome guy on the planet and moved out. She is fun and loving and a servant. Life has taken her halfway across the world to love on kids who desperately need it. You will be touched by this glimpse into her life. – Kim

He cries in the corner where nobody sees
He’s the kid with a story no one would believe He prays every night, Dear God won’t you please
Could you send someone here who will love me?
Who will love me for me
Not for what I have done or what I will become
Who will love me for me
Cause nobody has shown me what love
What love really means
JJ Heller, What Love Really Means

The verse and chorus of this song resonate with me so strongly because every day I am in the orphanage I see this boy or this girl and these words are their cry and most likely their prayer. These children have stories that we couldn’t believe. Little by little I hear pieces of their stories and my heart is further broken.

One was abandoned at birth. One was abused by his mother as a small child and brought to the orphanage at a very young age. One was brought to the orphanage in his teens because his mother didn’t want him anymore. One is missing her thumbs because her father cut them off. One is abused daily by his peers and care takers. One that no one wants is mentally handicapped and hidden in a little village tucked away from the rest of society. Honestly, the list could go on for pages and pages. Children that are desperately searching for the meaning of love and keep coming up empty handed.

The other day I saw Sasha who has grown up so much in the three years I have known him. He has been in the orphanage for many years…abandoned. A sister and mother would visit him from time to time, but I don’t think they are around much anymore…abandoned. A family came for him, committed to take him, and then was unable to do so…abandoned once again. His story is one no one would believe.

The other day he came and sat with me for awhile. This was normal three years ago, but has become rare as he has become more and more hardened by his difficult circumstances. He talked for a few minutes and then just sat beside me for awhile. He seemed so sad, and he radiated with this cry, “love me for me not because of what I have done or what will become, show me what love really means.”

After some time he asked me, “Hey, how do you say muffin in Russian?” I smiled to myself, thinking…deep thoughts of a 15-year-old boy. We had a small talk about how he liked muffins, but didn’t really know what to call them. Lucky for me it’s the same word, although it’s said with a cool Russian accent that I don’t possess. 🙂

The next time I went to the orphanage I brought two chocolate muffins for Sasha. Why? Because I am that person who will love him for who he is, not because of what he has done or who he will become. I will love him just because God has set him on my path.

Who has God set on your path to love just because they are, not for what they have done or what they will become? The world is filled with people who sit in the corner alone searching and praying for a taste of what love really is. Reach out to them today and gently lead them to the Father of love.

Laura Rechkemmer is working with orphans in Odessa, Ukraine. Her goal is to display the love of Christ to one child at a time as God sets them before her. Contact her at if you are interested in receiving newsletters or more information about her ministry.


Author: Kim Harms

I am a contributor at CT Women (previously known as Today's Christian Woman where I was a regular contributor as well). I blog monthly at and have freelanced for a variety of publications including Chicken Soup for the Soul, Guideposts, Thriving Family and Creation Illustrated. Cancer made an unwelcome visit in my breast in January 2016, and I am now working on a book about breast reconstruction after having gone through the insane process myself. My incredible husband of 18 years, Corey, is my biggest writing cheerleader and together we are having a ball raising our three growing boys; Carter 15, Owen 14 and Lewis 10.

2 thoughts on “What Love Really Means (Laura Rechkemmer)

  1. Beautiful words Laura. I cried when I first read this. Thank you for sharing!

  2. Beautiful story. Made me cry. How blessed those children are because of Laura.

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