Kim Harms

Life Reconstructed

They Chose Life (Cala Smoldt)


Sanctity of Life Post #2. I met Cala a few years ago when she and her husband became a part of the same church as our family. I fell in love with her little Ahava (who has the cutest voice imaginable) and appreciated Cala’s insight during our weekly women’s Bible study. I (along with many others) was very sad when they moved away to Ohio, but I am so happy to know her. And I’m excited to share her story with you. – Kim

“Strange, isn’t it? Each man’s life touches so many other lives. When he isn’t around he leaves an awful hole, doesn’t he?”

-Clarence Oddbody, “It’s a Wonderful Life”

She was 16. He was 17. Prom night actions resulted in a beautiful baby girl. With the pressures of media, peers, and the accepted social “norm”, these two teens simply did what they felt was natural. Ironically, the very same media, peers and society nearly convinced the juvenile lovers that their only option was to abort their resulting responsibility. Thankfully, the decision was Tyler and Kelsey’s alone to make.

Unexpected circumstances brought this couple and their worries to me. In desperate need of guidance, Kelsey reached out to my husband’s faith-based rock band for help and I, with my six month old daughter in tow, answered the call. We met with Kelsey and her boyfriend. They witnessed a mother and child bonding as I reassured and encouraged them to have their baby. I must say, I was disheartened when my words were met with minimal emotion or sincerity from the mother-to-be. I silently prayed for clarity for myself, the couple, and their unborn child.

Together they worked through the anxieties holding them back, particularly, the shame they felt they would cause their families. “We were both so worried about what everyone else would think,” Tyler shared, “we didn’t really think the decision through.” The night before their scheduled abortion, by the grace of God, they chose life.

The next day rather than the clinic, they went to the Christian pregnancy center directly across the street. They were met with encouragement, wise counsel, and an abundance of much needed resources.

“It’s the best feeling in the world,” said Tyler. “Watching her grow up and change into her own is just so amazing. Here she is, almost three

now, and I can easily say that she is the best thing to ever happen to me. Eva always knows how to cheer me up when I’m feeling down.”

Kelsey had a trying pregnancy, with medical issues resulting in a premature delivery. Upon entry into the world, the umbilical cord had wrapped around baby Eva’s neck. I rushed to the hospital to be with them for support. I walked with the first-time grandpa, to see his new granddaughter through the glass at the end of the hall. No one was yet allowed to hold this fragile life. We had a conversation at that window that I’ll never forget. His eyes were full of fear and pain as he expressed to me that he didn’t know what he would do if she didn’t make it through.

He was unsure how I knew his son, so I explained the situation. He understood his granddaughter was nearly among the statistics of aborted children. He exuded what I can only describe as heart-felt gratitude when he said, “Why would you do this?” I felt that my contribution was slight, but in that moment I took the significant opportunity to have a conversation with him about Jesus. What came next touched my very core.

The importance of even the tiniest life struck him as he looked through the window at the nurses caring for his grandbaby. He had not even held her, yet tears welled up in his eyes as he said, “You have no idea what she means to me… I don’t know what I would do without my granddaughter. Thank you.” My entire soul leapt with joy. I received all the thankfulness that every person who had encouraged them along the way deserved, and there were many. I hardly felt entitled to be the recipient.

Walking back to their hospital room, holding back tears I prayed, ‘God, be glorified in this child’s life.’ I knew He already was.

We can never fully comprehend what a life will bring into this world. Every person deserves the opportunity to give love, receive love and be love. The greatest tragedy, aside from the taking of innocent life, lies in what the world will unknowingly miss when it is denied such a beautiful soul as Eva.


Cala Smoldt has been saved by the grace of God through Jesus Christ. She is the wife of Dan Smoldt and full time mommy and teacher to 4 year old Ahava and 2 year old Cael David. She has a passion for the unborn, having experienced first-hand the beauty, love and self sacrifice taught to her by her own babies. In her “spare” time she claims the title of Home-economist, as well as Researcher in all things pertinent to home and health management.


Author: Kim Harms

I am a contributor at CT Women (previously known as Today's Christian Woman where I was a regular contributor as well). I blog monthly at and have freelanced for a variety of publications including Chicken Soup for the Soul, Guideposts, Thriving Family and Creation Illustrated. Cancer made an unwelcome visit in my breast in January 2016, and I am now working on a book about breast reconstruction after having gone through the insane process myself. My incredible husband of 18 years, Corey, is my biggest writing cheerleader and together we are having a ball raising our three growing boys; Carter 15, Owen 14 and Lewis 10.

4 thoughts on “They Chose Life (Cala Smoldt)

  1. Love this story! Miss you Cala! Wish our daughters could play together again.

  2. This is so beautiful, Cala and Kim! I’m praying for everyone who may read it.

  3. So beautiful! Thank you for sharing, Cala.
    Love & miss you all ♥

  4. It is a really well-written story and I’m glad Cala took the time to write it. Thanks Cala!

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