Kim Harms

Life Reconstructed

Stories I’m Reading: The 10-Second Rule


I’m sure that each one of you who has sent your baby to school (especially those of you who are stay-at-home moms) have been asked the question, “What are you going to do now?”  I think I heard that question about 587 times last fall. And each time I heard it, I thought I should have a detailed answer explaining what the next decade of my life would look like.

But guess what. I didn’t, and I still don’t. Sure I have goals and commitments, but I don’t have a step-by-step game plan. What I do know is that God has me at home this year, writing, serving in various capacities, sewing (that one still makes me giggle) and of course, parenting. I may drop my kids off at 8 am and pick them up at 3 pm, but they are still my kids, and everyone knows a mom’s job does not end when her baby walks through the elementary school doors.

What God has been teaching me this year is to “do the next thing.” I’m pretty sure he doesn’t want to show me what next year or the year after is gonna look like. He just wants me to pay attention to him, so I know what the next thing is. Do I always obey? Of course not. But have I seen him do some amazing things this year? Oh my yes.

10 second rule

After talking to my friend Marisa about what God is teaching me, she gave me a terrific book to read. The 10-Second Rule, by Clare De Graff, though it is has a little different slant than what I’ve been learning, is all about doing what you are reasonably sure God wants you to do in the next 10-seconds. It’s all about listening to the prompting of the Holy Spirit and not giving yourself the time to talk yourself out of an opportunity to do God’s will. It’s well-written, and De Graff makes such a good argument for obeying right away even when you think God is asking you to do something kind of weird or uncomfortable. (It made me think of the Beth Moore story I love where she brushed the elderly gentleman’s hair at the airport. You can find that story here.)

I haven’t yet made the commitment to focus on the 10-second rule for 30 days like he suggests at the end of the book, but it has been an encouragement to pay attention. It’s definitely worth a read, and maybe once you’ve finished you’ll want to rise to his challenge. Maybe if you commit to it, I will too 🙂


Author: Kim Harms

I am a contributor at CT Women (previously known as Today's Christian Woman where I was a regular contributor as well). I blog monthly at and have freelanced for a variety of publications including Chicken Soup for the Soul, Guideposts, Thriving Family and Creation Illustrated. Cancer made an unwelcome visit in my breast in January 2016, and I am now working on a book about breast reconstruction after having gone through the insane process myself. My incredible husband of 18 years, Corey, is my biggest writing cheerleader and together we are having a ball raising our three growing boys; Carter 15, Owen 14 and Lewis 10.

2 thoughts on “Stories I’m Reading: The 10-Second Rule

  1. Thank you for your kind comments about my book.The newest edition of The 10 Second Rule has a new cover, but otherwise it’s much the same. I tried to make it following Jesus made simple. Clare

    • I am honored that you stopped by my blog. God definitely used your book as a tool to teach me in this process of learning to “do the next thing.” Thanks for writing it! – Kim

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