Comments on: Your Hurting Friend Might Need You to Clean Her Toilets But She Probably Won’t Ask https://kimharms.net/2018/02/06/your-hurting-friend-might-need-you-to-clean-her-toilets-but-she-probably-wont-ask/ With Cancer, Not Without Hope Tue, 22 May 2018 16:34:05 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.8.3 By: KimHarms https://kimharms.net/2018/02/06/your-hurting-friend-might-need-you-to-clean-her-toilets-but-she-probably-wont-ask/#comment-2596 Tue, 22 May 2018 16:34:05 +0000 https://kimharms.net/?p=6008#comment-2596 In reply to Cheryl.

Cheryl,
I just came upon a pile of messages that I somehow missed when they were sent. I apologize that I am just now getting back to you! Thanks so much for sharing your story. And how cool that you are from the Ames area 🙂 I love it here.

Telling the kids was so very hard. You just want to protect them. But I’ve learned that they grow more when they aren’t protected from the hard things. Corey and the boys were really awesome through the whole thing.

Maybe we can meet in real life at some point. I don’t have that opportunity with a lot of my blog readers.

]]> By: Cheryl https://kimharms.net/2018/02/06/your-hurting-friend-might-need-you-to-clean-her-toilets-but-she-probably-wont-ask/#comment-1382 Thu, 01 Mar 2018 08:35:42 +0000 https://kimharms.net/?p=6008#comment-1382 Hi, Kim–I have been touched by reading your posts during the past hour or so. I was going through some notes this afternoon and found the phrase “Life Reconstructed – Kim Harms” jotted down from a conversation I had earlier this month with a breast cancer survivor from Frankfort, KY. (The sister of a friend of my brother-in-law from Cleveland, OH) She recommended your blog…and then I learn that I’ve just circled back to central Iowa, ISU, and Huxley. I work in Ames, had my lumpectomy at Mary Greeley on February 9, 2018, and have a dear friend who lives in Huxley.

I read your post about “telling the boys” —through tears. Our three young ladies are all in their early thirties, so we saw one of them in person and called the other two by cellphone. They sent the most beautiful bouquet to the hospital–even though I was just there for 1/2 a day. It’s just not something you want to tell your daughters–but at least they’re not young kids anymore, like yours still are.

Your husband has been a great sport (pretty pink paper vest pic). Al has been great–this would be pretty scary to do without a spouse. He has gone along to every appointment starting with the biopsy.

What I kept thinking about as I was on my way to surgery–I had been to choir practice two days before, and we practiced a song with the words, “You are the Christ, the Son of the Living God. You are the Christ, the solid rock on which I stand…”

Thanks much! Go State! (We are both UNI grads, but all three of my sisters attended ISU.) Cheryl

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