May 30, 2016 KimHarms

Proverbs 18:4 The words of a man’s mouth are deep waters;     the fountain of wisdom is a bubbling brook.   “He’s 14, and he’s taken to grunting.” Yep, those words came out of my husband’s mouth on a recent double-date, and they are oh so accurate. It is amazing how much can be said in a grunt. There’s the “yes” grunt, the “no” grunt, the “I’m so tired” grunt, the “I don’t care” grunt. I could go on, but you moms out there with teen boys probably know exactly what I’m talking about. Grunting is not my preferred form of…

May 23, 2016 KimHarms

  Proverbs 17:9 He who covers an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends. Without forgiveness friendships become superficial. They become catty. They can even fall completely apart. When I began dating Corey, I kind of dropped the ball on a friendship with a close friend. Where I used to eat with Rachel at our kitchen table, I now would head over to Corey’s apartment or go out to eat with him. My study dates with Rach became my study dates with Corey. And all the movie nights Rach and I used to have? Well, now I…

May 16, 2016 KimHarms 4Comment

“No parent can protect their child from seeing pornography. Any mother right now will probably say, ‘Oh no, I pray over my child’, or “I home school and so therefore I can protect my child.’ When I hear this, I look that mother right in the eye and say, ‘You will lose your child. You, cannot protect your, child, from, seeing, pornography! They will see it. What you must do is, as a responsible mother and father, is prepare your child for the first time they will see it, and it will probably be before eight years of age in…

May 2, 2016 KimHarms

(My Boy Mom Monday devos came to a halt in January because, well, cancer. I’m still committed to making my way through the Proverbs in prayer for my boys, and now that cancer is no longer occupying 100% of my time and energy, I’m ready to get back to it. I’d love for you to join me. Our boys need praying mamas.) Proverbs 15:31 He who listens to a life-giving rebuke will be at home among the wise. During my freshman year of college, I made a decision that I knew was contrary to what God wanted for me. I tried to…

January 4, 2016 KimHarms

Proverbs 13:5 The righteous hate what is false, but the desires of the diligent are fully satisfied. Our kids are growing up in a society that loves making evil good and good evil. It’s a confusing and frustrating generation for Christian kids to be immersed in.  The Bible draws clear lines between what is false and what is true, but our society no longer finds its morality within scriptures. Instead we live in a world of shifting mores. Whatever feels right right now, must be right. In this dangerous way of thinking, “truth” shifts as often as the seasons. Movies,…

December 21, 2015 KimHarms

  12:26 A righteous man is cautious in friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray. One of my oldest son’s best friends is the son of one of my college friends. It is not by accident. When our boys were in third grade, my friend and I became proactive in their friendship, orchestrating times for the boys to hang out together. Theirs is a friendship that probably wouldn’t have blossomed without a little push because the boys didn’t naturally cross paths. In all of their years of elementary school, they were only placed in the same classroom…

December 9, 2015 KimHarms

I love watching my kids play sports. I’m a quiet person by nature, but when a game gets intense sometimes I yell a little. And sometimes I grind my fingernails into Corey’s leg. And sometimes I think he’d prefer to sit with someone else. As much as I enjoy watching my kids play, extra-curriculars on Sunday are hard for me. When I was growing up, Sundays were untouched by youth sports. In fact, they were untouched by pretty much anything but church and family. (I can’t think of a business that was open in my small hometown on Sundays.) Our culture has changed,…

December 7, 2015 KimHarms

Proverbs 10:19 When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise. One of the things that attracts me to and conversely makes me want to strangle my husband is that he chooses his words carefully.  If the average number of words spoken by a male really is 7,000 as they say, Corey could easily get by with 3,500. If it doesn’t need to be said, he doesn’t say it. I hate this when he’s been gone for an extended period of time and returns home to describe the whole experience in two sentences….

November 30, 2015 KimHarms 2Comment

Proverbs 9:9 Instruct a wise man and he will be wiser still; teach a righteous man and he will add to his learning. My kids aren’t big fans of the 8:00 – 3:00 school day routine. (It’s boring, they say.) And it perplexes them that they must go to school for nine months of the year while summer break lasts only three months. In their minds, to be fair, school should be six months of the year and break should fill the other six. They wouldn’t say that they think learning is fun, but my oldest son found an appreciation…

November 25, 2015 KimHarms

My latest article went LIVE at Today’s Christian Woman. (Insights from my years of learning to communicate with the man-children God so richly blessed me with.) You can start reading it here and click the link at the end to get the rest of the story. Boy Moms: 5 Tips for Communication with Your Son It’s 9:55 P.M. A lover of sleep, what I want to do right now is curl up in bed with my hubby and watch an episode of M*A*S*H on Netflix while I fall asleep on his shoulder. Instead, I flip to Chapter 33 and start…