January 11, 2016 KimHarms

Proverbs 14:23 All hard work brings a profit, but mere talk leads only to poverty. “Hey mom, can you come spot me? I’m gonna try a backflip.” My middle son Owen asked me that question just as offhandedly as he might have asked me to help him with a math problem. In his head, it was something he wanted to do so he was gonna try it. In my head, it was a crazy thought, and he would probably get over it in the near future. But he didn’t.  Instead, he did what kids these days do and found YouTube instruction…

January 4, 2016 KimHarms

Proverbs 13:5 The righteous hate what is false, but the desires of the diligent are fully satisfied. Our kids are growing up in a society that loves making evil good and good evil. It’s a confusing and frustrating generation for Christian kids to be immersed in.  The Bible draws clear lines between what is false and what is true, but our society no longer finds its morality within scriptures. Instead we live in a world of shifting mores. Whatever feels right right now, must be right. In this dangerous way of thinking, “truth” shifts as often as the seasons. Movies,…

December 21, 2015 KimHarms

  12:26 A righteous man is cautious in friendship, but the way of the wicked leads them astray. One of my oldest son’s best friends is the son of one of my college friends. It is not by accident. When our boys were in third grade, my friend and I became proactive in their friendship, orchestrating times for the boys to hang out together. Theirs is a friendship that probably wouldn’t have blossomed without a little push because the boys didn’t naturally cross paths. In all of their years of elementary school, they were only placed in the same classroom…

December 14, 2015 KimHarms

Proverbs 11:2 When pride comes, then comes disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom. My Owen loves to play football.  Before he was old enough for school ball he played on a youth team, and man did he enjoy it. One of those years his team won one game. One game. They practiced hard and played hard, but they just couldn’t pull off a win. I credit his coaches for instilling in the boys the love of the game, even in loss. They encouraged those boys continually. And each week the kids went out and gave it their best. And they never…

December 7, 2015 KimHarms

Proverbs 10:19 When words are many, sin is not absent, but he who holds his tongue is wise. One of the things that attracts me to and conversely makes me want to strangle my husband is that he chooses his words carefully.  If the average number of words spoken by a male really is 7,000 as they say, Corey could easily get by with 3,500. If it doesn’t need to be said, he doesn’t say it. I hate this when he’s been gone for an extended period of time and returns home to describe the whole experience in two sentences….

November 30, 2015 KimHarms 2Comment

Proverbs 9:9 Instruct a wise man and he will be wiser still; teach a righteous man and he will add to his learning. My kids aren’t big fans of the 8:00 – 3:00 school day routine. (It’s boring, they say.) And it perplexes them that they must go to school for nine months of the year while summer break lasts only three months. In their minds, to be fair, school should be six months of the year and break should fill the other six. They wouldn’t say that they think learning is fun, but my oldest son found an appreciation…

November 25, 2015 KimHarms

My latest article went LIVE at Today’s Christian Woman. (Insights from my years of learning to communicate with the man-children God so richly blessed me with.) You can start reading it here and click the link at the end to get the rest of the story. Boy Moms: 5 Tips for Communication with Your Son It’s 9:55 P.M. A lover of sleep, what I want to do right now is curl up in bed with my hubby and watch an episode of M*A*S*H on Netflix while I fall asleep on his shoulder. Instead, I flip to Chapter 33 and start…

November 16, 2015 KimHarms 1Comment

I missed Boy Mom Monday last week because I was 3300 miles away from my boys in Port au Prince, Haiti. I just returned from my trip and, in lieu of a devotion, I am posting something I wrote in 2008 for my column in the local paper. Maybe some of you can relate 🙂   It all started with the Boy Wonder. In the fall of 2005, my mom made Batman and Robin costumes for my two boys. The two-year-old became smitten with Robin. I remember the morning I was awakened at the crack of dawn to my son, standing…

November 9, 2015 KimHarms 1Comment

Proverbs 8:35 For whoever finds me finds life and receives favor from the Lord. My kids sometimes play the game sardines with their friends. In sardines, one person hides and the rest of the group tries to find him.  When a seeker finds the hider, he hides alongside him. This pattern continues until only one seeker is left. That last one left seeking is the loser. The kids who don’t pay close attention as the other players start disappearing tend to be the least successful in the game. It’s all about seeking with purpose and joining those who have found…

October 19, 2015 KimHarms 2Comment

Proverbs 6:10-11 A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest and poverty will come on you like a bandit, and scarcity like an armed man. We can be lazy over here at the Harms house. There are some hot summer days and cold winter days during which holding down the couch is an all day event. I let my kids play too many video games some days and sleep in too late on other days. I’m not perfect. But though I am the overseer of the lazy days, I’m also trying to instill a…