January 22, 2019 KimHarms 8Comment

He sat on the couch and listened to How He Loves over and over. We had just learned his mom was diagnosed with breast cancer, and this was my hubby’s way of dealing with the news. Worship. Music is how he connects with his creator. Not long after that Corey began singing and playing How He Loves in church, leading the congregation in worship.  I love to listen to Corey sing pretty much anything, but if I was told to choose one last song to hear him sing, it would be that one. Because I know what it means to…

January 8, 2019 KimHarms 6Comment

Not enough cancer. It sounds ridiculous. Or maybe it doesn’t. But there is a little voice in my head I have to fight periodically that tells me “You didn’t have enough cancer to do what you’re doing. You were stage I. You didn’t even have chemo. Stop this thing and move on.” I am forever grateful that a couple surgeries, a few months of a crazy reconstruction process, and a little white pill every morning for 10 years are the extent of my treatment (as long as it doesn’t come back, which it likely won’t, so there’s no point worrying…

November 30, 2018 KimHarms

The digital copy of the parenting through breast cancer issue of Wildfire Magazine releases tomorrow! I had the opportunity to write about walking through breast cancer with teen boys for this issue. Carter and Owen were in 8th and 7th grade when I was diagnosed, and were suddenly put in a very tough place where they had to think not only about mortality, but also about their mom’s boobs. We tried to be as open as possible with those guys without overwhelming them with more info than they wanted. I think we did an okay job, but they haven’t reached…

November 21, 2018 KimHarms

It’s my 20th anniversary. It doesn’t feel like we’re old enough for 20 years of marriage, but the calendar says it’s true, so we’ll go with it. Living with Corey for the last 2 decades has been a wild and crazy adventure. I love him lots. To paraphrase Jerry Maguire “he completes me.”  (Just Kidding. He’s awesome, but he’s not Jesus.) Because I’m a word person and things like anniversaries get me in the mood for reminiscing, I’m gonna share a few things I would’ve missed out on in the last 20 years if I hadn’t become Mrs. Harms. Carter…

November 15, 2018 KimHarms

    Reconstructing Intimacy After Breast Cancer I was honored to have the opportunity to speak with Dr. Juli Slattery of Authentic Intimacy for her Java with Juli podcast recently.  I will keep this post short and let the podcast speak itself, but I will say this about our journey to “authentic intimacy” post mastectomy and breast reconstruction.  I think if Corey and I had really thought through how sex would change when I no longer had breasts, we would’ve had an inkling that there was going to be a struggle ahead, but we were so focused at first on…