November 21, 2018 KimHarms

It’s my 20th anniversary. It doesn’t feel like we’re old enough for 20 years of marriage, but the calendar says it’s true, so we’ll go with it. Living with Corey for the last 2 decades has been a wild and crazy adventure. I love him lots. To paraphrase Jerry Maguire “he completes me.”  (Just Kidding. He’s awesome, but he’s not Jesus.) Because I’m a word person and things like anniversaries get me in the mood for reminiscing, I’m gonna share a few things I would’ve missed out on in the last 20 years if I hadn’t become Mrs. Harms. Carter…

November 15, 2018 KimHarms

    Reconstructing Intimacy After Breast Cancer I was honored to have the opportunity to speak with Dr. Juli Slattery of Authentic Intimacy for her Java with Juli podcast recently.  I will keep this post short and let the podcast speak itself, but I will say this about our journey to “authentic intimacy” post mastectomy and breast reconstruction.  I think if Corey and I had really thought through how sex would change when I no longer had breasts, we would’ve had an inkling that there was going to be a struggle ahead, but we were so focused at first on…

November 13, 2018 KimHarms

I was diagnosed with breast cancer at age 40, so I was on the old side of young when cancer struck. I didn’t have all the worries of a young woman diagnosed with breast cancer, but there are definitely a variety of concerns young women deal with that older women don’t.  Today I’ve compiled a list of helpful links for young breast cancer fighters and survivors. Wildfire Magazine is the first. I have had the opportunity to write two articles for Wildfire, a bi-monthly magazine for young fighters and survivors of breast cancer. The editor, April Stearns, is a young…

October 4, 2018 KimHarms

  When mom learned that Anne Graham Lotz was diagnosed with breast cancer, she found an address and sent her a set of pillows, not even positive they would get to her. Not long after, she received this hand-written thank you in the mail. How sweet is that? Don’t know Anne Graham Lotz? She’s the daughter of Reverend Billy Graham and you can read some of her breast cancer story on her website annegrahamlotz.org Mom and her friends have sent pillows to women in 40 states and have supplied pillows and/or seatbelt covers to medical clinics in 5 states. When…

May 15, 2018 KimHarms 2Comment

When people are comfortable enough to ask me about breast reconstruction, one of the things they want to know is “What was the hardest part?” It’s a tough question to answer because there are so many hard things about it both physically and emotionally. The following eight women (who represent a variety of breast reconstruction procedures) attempt to answer that question today. Heather Lau – Reconstruction with Tissue Expanders It was definitely physically hard for me. I got expanders put in two months after chemo, and my body was still recovering from that. I thought the drainage tubes were awful….