November 15, 2018 KimHarms

    Reconstructing Intimacy After Breast Cancer I was honored to have the opportunity to speak with Dr. Juli Slattery of Authentic Intimacy for her Java with Juli podcast recently.  I will keep this post short and let the podcast speak itself, but I will say this about our journey to “authentic intimacy” post mastectomy and breast reconstruction.  I think if Corey and I had really thought through how sex would change when I no longer had breasts, we would’ve had an inkling that there was going to be a struggle ahead, but we were so focused at first on…

October 4, 2018 KimHarms

  When mom learned that Anne Graham Lotz was diagnosed with breast cancer, she found an address and sent her a set of pillows, not even positive they would get to her. Not long after, she received this hand-written thank you in the mail. How sweet is that? Don’t know Anne Graham Lotz? She’s the daughter of Reverend Billy Graham and you can read some of her breast cancer story on her website annegrahamlotz.org Mom and her friends have sent pillows to women in 40 states and have supplied pillows and/or seatbelt covers to medical clinics in 5 states. When…

June 12, 2018 KimHarms 2Comment

We have sent FREE mastectomy pillows to individuals in 39 states and medical centers in four states. My mom and her friends (The Bosom Buddies) get together regularly to sew pillows to give to women in need. In fact, they have a sewing day planned this week. The lovely woman pictured above is one our our pillow recipients. She received her pillow through the Hoffberger Breast Center in Baltimore, Maryland. If you or someone you know could use these pillows, you can find a contact form on my FREE MASTECTOMY PILLOWS page. (Please remember to include a mailing address with…

May 22, 2018 KimHarms 4Comment

I was 40 and already had a head of prematurely gray hair (I hide it well) when Dr. Testroet called with the crappy cancer news, but the following words from Jen Wilkin’s 27-year-old experience ring true inside of me. Once you hear a cancer diagnosis, you can’t unhear it. Even with successful treatment, it changes the way you number your days. I had been given an opportunity not many 27-year-olds could claim: the opportunity to count each of my days as precious. Any illusions I might have had that this life would last forever were effectively removed. I learned a…

May 15, 2018 KimHarms 2Comment

When people are comfortable enough to ask me about breast reconstruction, one of the things they want to know is “What was the hardest part?” It’s a tough question to answer because there are so many hard things about it both physically and emotionally. The following eight women (who represent a variety of breast reconstruction procedures) attempt to answer that question today. Heather Lau – Reconstruction with Tissue Expanders It was definitely physically hard for me. I got expanders put in two months after chemo, and my body was still recovering from that. I thought the drainage tubes were awful….