The Stuff of Life

What a Girl Wants


IMG_3058A note to my six-year-old story-writing self who blinked and somehow turned into a pushing-40-wife-of-the-most-amazing-husband-ever-and-mother-of-three-fantastically-wonderful-wild-and-crazy-boys.

Be thankful God doesn’t always give you what you want.

And to quote my friend Beth Moore (this is admittedly a quite lopsided friendship 🙂 )

“He will either bless you with what you want, or he will bless more than just you with what you did not know to want.”

Preach it Beth. Clinging to those words today.

PS – To the four friends whose pending departure is definitely not what this girl wants and has left a stinking annoying hole in my heart: I love you and pray you will develop new endearing friendships, but I FORBID you to replace ours. Got it?


Author: Kim Harms

I am a contributor at CT Women (previously known as Today's Christian Woman where I was a regular contributor as well). I blog monthly at and have freelanced for a variety of publications including Chicken Soup for the Soul, Guideposts, Thriving Family and Creation Illustrated. Cancer made an unwelcome visit in my breast in January 2016, and I am now working on a book about breast reconstruction after having gone through the insane process myself. My incredible husband of 18 years, Corey, is my biggest writing cheerleader and together we are having a ball raising our three growing boys; Carter 15, Owen 14 and Lewis 10.

11 thoughts on “What a Girl Wants

  1. Sorry Nathan, you missed out big time! And I mean big time!

  2. You are the best Mr. Harms 🙂

  3. People cannot be replaced! Moving changes things, but we aren’t going that far. We can be intentional. Plus, I’ll need those friends that knew me before I became a PW! Without Corey to pick on me, I might go crazy! I will miss you something fierce, though.

    • I’m pretty sure he’ll find a way to pick on you 🙂 And we are definitely going to be intentional about hanging out and I already miss you even though you aren’t gone. And I’m a little jealous of those Dallas Center people. . .

  4. Amen, Kim! Resting in HIS arms today. Bittersweet…

  5. I love you, too, Kim!! And don’t you worry, these are lifelong friendships! No wait, eternal friendships!! Here’s to the rest of eternity with us! FYI-all our brokenness and junk will be gone in heaven. You might even like us a little more then. 🙂 Is that possible?!

    • No brokenness and no sinus infections either… And there will be no need to move away to plant a church 🙂 I think eternal friendship is definitely a good thing.

  6. BTW-what were you doing up at 2:21 am??

  7. oh…mine says 1:57 pm and it is really 8:58 am. Hmm…how does that work?

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