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Confessions of a Former Teetotaler: Drinking and Christianity



This story was a hard one for me.

When I was given the opportunity by Today’s Christian Woman to write about where I land on the drinking debate and why, I knew doing so would reveal things about me that may change people’s opinions of who I am.

I would write a paragraph and think “this person is going to think I’m such a weirdo.” I’d write another and think, “Oh my goodness, that person is going to question my salvation because I like pina coladas.” And when I wrote a bit of family history I couldn’t stop thinking that maybe someone would feel like I unnecessarily shed light on a topic that doesn’t get talked about…I could go on.

I can’t read through this article without my heart beating a little fast. But not one thought made the final cut without extensive reflection and care.

Some will vehemently disagree with me on this one, while others will have a hard time believing how strongly I was opposed to alcohol consumption until recent years. But it is what it is, as they say.

I took the opportunity to write about something hard, and I decided that if two of my primary goals were not offending anyone and making myself look good, I couldn’t possibly write a true story.

So here’s the link. Take it or leave it.

Confessions of a Former Teetotaler


Author: Kim Harms

I am a contributor at CT Women (previously known as Today's Christian Woman where I was a regular contributor as well). I blog monthly at and have freelanced for a variety of publications including Chicken Soup for the Soul, Guideposts, Thriving Family and Creation Illustrated. Cancer made an unwelcome visit in my breast in January 2016, and I am now working on a book about breast reconstruction after having gone through the insane process myself. My incredible husband of 18 years, Corey, is my biggest writing cheerleader and together we are having a ball raising our three growing boys; Carter 15, Owen 14 and Lewis 10.

6 thoughts on “Confessions of a Former Teetotaler: Drinking and Christianity

  1. I wanna read it!! But I don’t wanna subscribe. Sounds like an interesting article. Congrats on your writing!

  2. My journey down the path of the Christian alcohol debate is eerily similar to yours. I so appreciate you taking the risk to write about this important issue. The turnaround I experienced in my walk with God when I finally stopped demonizing social drinking ended up finding its way into my first novel. Please know I’m not intending for this comment to be a shameless plug for my book, but I’m just saying this to affirm that this is really an important topic for so many of us right now. I know that because of my own reader responses. In my Christian humor novel, I force my superior-minded main character to attend a bible study in a saloon. So many people seem to connect with the inner turmoil I put that poor lady through as she wrestled with whether or not to go. Excellent writing, Kim–thank you!!

    • Thank you so much for leaving this comment. I have been gearing up for comments from people who disagree with me so this is great encouragement to me. I’m almost ashamed to say that I bought The Epic Undoing of Haley Ann Ewing last year to read on a trip and never got around to reading it. I’ll have to dig through my kindle library and find it 🙂

  3. Excellent story! I think you are being too hard on yourself. Many years ago, in our early married years before having kids, most of our friends were non-Christian and they always tried to “force” me to take a drink. And although they thought I was a little weird, I felt that they respected me (at least most of them).

  4. They say you’re always your worst critic 😉

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