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Inspire A fire – The Cost of Too Many Commitments

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This summer I spent a few days at The Write to Publish Conference at Wheaton College. While there, I had the opportunity to sit and talk with Cindy Sproles, founder of Christian Devotions Ministries and Acquisitions Editor for Lighthouse Publishing of the Carolinas. I could have hung out with her forever because she is the mom of 4 boys and she has the loveliest Southern accent.

Cindy invited me to become a monthly blogger at Inspire A Fire, and my first post publishes today. This month’s theme is counting the cost. The first part of my post is below, and you can go to Inspire a Fire for the rest of the story.

The Cost of Too Many Commitments

You know, it’s okay if your primary ministry focus is husband and your kids.”

I don’t remember the details of the conversation with my mother-in-law leading up to that comment, but those words were the impetus to a change in my mom of small children perspective. I knew I wanted my primary role at that point in my life to be wife and mother, but it wasn’t until someone else said it out loud that I started to seriously think about what it meant.

My husband was a project manager for a construction company and depending on what point he was at in a project, we could work some pretty long hours. On top of his job, he was heavily involved in ministry. His roles as worship leader and youth leader required hours and hours of his time.

I was a stay-at-home mom at the time my mother-in-law made that comment, and I was involved in more things than I could balance with Corey’s commitments. I volunteered at a crisis pregnancy center, led our church missions team, substituted as a children’s Sunday School teacher, freelanced for the local newspaper and took part in an in-depth women’s Bible study.

I had convinced myself that since I didn’t have a real job, (mama’s of young kids out there who are reading this, please know that being a stay-at-home mom is very much a real job) I should have plenty of time to juggle a number of outside commitments…

Head on over to Inspire A Fire for the rest of the story.


Author: Kim Harms

I am a contributor at CT Women (previously known as Today's Christian Woman where I was a regular contributor as well). I blog monthly at and have freelanced for a variety of publications including Chicken Soup for the Soul, Guideposts, Thriving Family and Creation Illustrated. Cancer made an unwelcome visit in my breast in January 2016, and I am now working on a book about breast reconstruction after having gone through the insane process myself. My incredible husband of 18 years, Corey, is my biggest writing cheerleader and together we are having a ball raising our three growing boys; Carter 15, Owen 14 and Lewis 10.

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